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youth culture and feminism in the sixties, in addition to secularization and changes in believe systems, led to a social and cultural revolution. Different lifestyles and insights emerged, partly under the influence of media such as radio and TV. This resulted in an explosive rise in choices in areas such as education, career and personal growth. The social focus shifted more towards the individual; the role of the family moved more into the background.
Everyone could now make the choices that were tailored to him / her. But in a relatively short time all kinds of choices have increased immensely, both in number and in complexity. This realization, together with the (self-imposed) responsibility to make specific “right” choices, nowadays appears to put a heavier pressure on many a shoulder than expected. Especially choices that (in our view) relate to our identity, are currently considered to be very important and the associated consequences thus carefully weighed.
The resulting stress, combined with the idea that we are for the most part responsible for our success and our lives, is even crippling to some. The fear of making a wrong choice (where there’s no way back) appears to get the upper hand. When in such an impasse, it can help to distance ourselves.
In conclusion, most importantly, know what you want and why you want it. Having a good self-insight can be helpful with this.